Independence in Women...

    Hi Everyone, hope you all spent some quality time with your fathers. And to those who wish they could, may God continue to be your fathers.

Eh.. so, my friend read my post yesterday and came up with a very important question for me. As thoughtful as I could sometimes be;) I decided to share with you all.

So, the question was in reply to the article "severe whats left of the relationship". In case you missed out on this article, read it here.  Her first question was "do you really think that applies in every situation?" then she continued " what if you you stop, and its the wrong time to stop?" then she added "Stopping sometimes reflects weakness".

    Well, the article clearly stated when to stop. When you are the only one fighting and making up excuses to cover up for him/her then it is really time to stop. Its either you stop and think, then continue or you stop, turn around and go. Yes! 

Truth is, when the thoughts of stopping begins to creep into your mind then something is wrong. If by any chance you realize that you stopped at the wrong time, be rest assured that your partner will return and everything will be alright again.  If he/she does not return to you then it wasn't meant to be and they were never yours after all. Pick up whats left of you and move on.As for the weakness aspect, I agree that applies to other aspects of life but I disagree it applies here. It is not weakness to quit on a man or woman that does not remind you of the love of God.  On the contrary it is strength.

      At the sound of strength, my friend said something else. She said "In today's world if a lady appears to be extremely independent  it becomes an issue for guys". I use to think so before now. Truth is, no self confident man will have a problem with an independent lady. Guys let me know if I am wrong. It is only a man that has intentions of placing you under his feet that will have problems with you achieving certain things for yourself. Whoever said there was a limitation as to what a woman could achieve? A man is suppose to support and encourage you towards your goals and not feel threatened in anyway. So my dear, it is a very good thing for a lady to be very independent, married or not. Yes! like my friend also said, some ladies tend to act controlling and in charge when they are independent. Now that's personal. she is going to act that way whether she is independent or not, that's just who she is. 

Looking forward to your opinions! xxx xxx